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Robert Franklin Muirhead
Robert Muirhead was a mathematics teacher who also worked for the Glasgow Socialist League and Edward Carpenter had undertaken a speaking tour with him in 1886. Schreiner met Muirhead at Millthorpe, and according to Sheila Rowbotham he was immediately drawn to her, while Schreiner herself both reciprocated and also commented (to Carpenter and others) that she could never marry a man like Bob Muirhead because ‘he’s too good’. They became close friends and corresponded from when Schreiner left Britain for South Africa in late 1888 through to 1920, with the extant letters likely to be the remnants of a larger number.
These letters to Muirhead are comradely letters, letters between chums, and contain such comments as ‘I wish I was a man we could camp around the world together’ with sign offs often being from ‘your old comrade’. When Schreiner first returned to South Africa, she wrote urging him to come out too, then actively discouraged him - he would not be able to cope with realities for working men there in roughing it, but then suggests that he might work at her friend Mr Lloyd’s new school. Throughout these letters, the Edward Carpenter shared connection was clearly an important one and is referred to in the later letters as well as the earlier. Comments on nature and landscape also feature strongly. Gaining a purchase on the letters to Muirhead is however quite difficult. They are largely ‘staying in touch’ kinds of letters, making arrangements, and expressing friendly and loving feelings, but at the same time little of Schreiner and her activities comes through in the earlier letters, which contain very little about her writing and her ‘views’. Exceptions here concern a 1908 letter about the Dinuzulu trial and the need for justice for black people and a 1911 one sending Muirhead a copy of her Closer Union. However, from 1914 on there are some very powerful letters on the First World War, especially her October 1914 letter to him, which conveys what the conversations between them might have been like and is concerned with the diplomacy leading up to war, lying and darkness, and what was in the making being worse than even the South African War.
The later letters also shed some important light on Schreiner’s estrangement from Carpenter during the war, as with her comment to Muirhead that ‘I’m afraid he [Carpenter] thinks I’m very wicked because I don’t see any good in war’, with Carpenter’s less than total pacifist attitude to the war being named as one of the four great blows in her life. They detail a furore about a wartime invention by Muirhead and Schreiner’s perturbation and indignation at his accusation that she might have gossiped about this. Her horror of gossip, of being thought untrustworthy, of talking of other people and their business to third parties, come through strongly and are also expressed across many other letters too, not just these to Muirhead. What also comes through is that Bob Muirhead was in some respects rather flaky perhaps; he seems not have had any paid work at various points, and his inventions too seem to not come to anything. Schreiner also takes him to task on feminist grounds, for treating his wife’s concerns in a rather off-hand way. But the strong affection and friendship remained and in other letters from around this time (1914) Schreiner writes about becoming more and more sociable and not wanting to be alone any more.
For more information see:
Sheila Rowbotham (2008) Edward Carpenter: A Life of Liberty and Love London: Verso

Macfarlane-Muirhead Family: Schreiner’s letters to Robert Muirhead are part of Macfarlane-Muirhead family collection and can be accessed at the Mui... Show/Hide Collection Letters
MacFarlane-Muirhead/1:St’ Leonards on Sea, Dear Bob, I have had to come down here for a week. I shan’t be back in town till the Wednes ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/2:Mount Vernon, Cape Town., Dec 8 / 89., Dear Bob, I wrote you quite a long letter two weeks ago. Then I suddenly got news that...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/3:My dear Bob,, Thankyou for your letter., I knew it would all be like that!! as the old women say, shaking their fingers. You’...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/4:Bob, Cape Town, May 23 / 92., My dear Bob, A Mr Muir has just come out here from Glasgo; he knows you, & he likes you. Of...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/5:Cape Town, Aug 13 / 92, My dear Bob,, I wrote you a card three weeks ago, but I don’t think they posted it. I’ve ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/6:Did not come for many reasons. Shall be down in the south of England likely in August unless I settle at Mill-Thorpe. I wonde...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/7:New College,, Eastbourne., Friday, My dear Bob, I am going up to Ilkley on Monday. I leave by the 12.25 from St Pancras. When...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/8:The Homestead, Kimberley, Sep 17 / 94, Dear Bob,, You write to a person & give “Edinburgh” as your only addre...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/9:[page/s missing] Talk the matter over with him; & see what he thinks., I’m so glad to hear about your little son Bo...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/10:The Homestead, March 28 / 95. , Kimberley, South Africa, Dear Bob,, I enclose a letter which I’ve just cut from a paper...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/11:The Homestead, Kimberley, Aug 3rd 1895, Dear Bob,, A friend of my, a splendid but and very kind Presbeterian Clergyman was he...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/12:New College Junior School,, Eastbourne., My own dear old Chum, I wish oh so much you were in London, we shall be there till F...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/13:7 rue Lemâitre, Puteaux, Seine, May 14 / 97, My dear Bob, Edward sent me your letter., I hope all will go well with you...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/14:31 Lower Belgrave St, O W, Dear Bob,, Drop me a line some time if you feel you can. Give my love to your wife, & the dear...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/15:Morley’s Hotel, Trafalgar Square, London W.C., 16th July. 97, My dear Bob, (Olive says you are “Bob”), Your...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/16:The Homestead, Sep 23rd 1898, My dear Bob, It seems long since we had tidings of how the world was going with you three. Does...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/17:Hanover, Friday, My dear Bob, “Is there spirits about!” Yesterday for the first time for eleven or more months I ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/18:Cronwright-Schreiner & Meyer , Law and Estate Agents. , Auctioneers, &c, Hanover and De Aar , Cronwright-Schreiner, L...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/19:Hanover , Jan 22nd 1907, Dear Bob, I’m often wishing I had news of you all. How goes the world with you & the wife ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/20:P.O. Box 24, De Aar, Cape Colony, South Africa, Dec 24 / 07, Dear Bob & Lene, This is just a little line of Xmas & Ne...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/21:Box 24, De Aar, Nov 16th 1908, Dear Bob, I am sending you two photos of my self, take one for yourself & Lenie & send...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/22:De Aar, April 3rd 1911, Dear Bob, I’m sending you & Lene a copy of my book. It’s only a fragment but tell me ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/23:De Aar, Cape of Good Hope, South Africa, May 28th 1913, My dear Bob, I hope the world goes well with you all. How is your own...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/24:Hotel Augusta Victoria, Bad Nauheim, [page/s missing] but as I don’t know any one in the whole country except one woman...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/25:Grand Hotel und Kurhaus, Oberhof, July 14th 1914, Dear Bob thanks for your letter. As you will see I’m now in a little ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/26:Telephone 7266 Paddington, The Windsor,, 61 & 62 Lancaster Gate, W, Dear Bob, Thanks for your letter & thanks for ask...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/27:Telephone: 3675 Kensington., Telegrams: Apartment, London., Kensington Palace Mansions & Hotel,, De Vere Gardens, W., Dea...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/28:Telephone: 3675 Kensington., Telegrams: Apartment, London. , Kensington Palace Mansions & Hotel,, De Vere Gardens, W., De...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/29:c/o Dr Parker, Llandrindod Wells, Wales, Tuesday, Dear Bob,, I’m sorry that so far the invention has not come off. I’...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/30:c/o Dr Parker, Trevaldwyn,, Llandrindod Wells., Dear Bob, Thanks for your letter. I never go to peace meetings if I can help ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/31:c/o Dr Parker, Llandrindod Wells, Wales, Wednesday, Dear Bob, I am so much better & able to stick to my writing that I do...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/32:c/o Dr Corthorn, 30 St Mary Abbotts Terrace, Kensington, London W., Dear Bob, I found the air too damp & relaxing in Corn...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/33:30 St Mary Abbotts Terrace, Kensington, Friday, Dear Bob, Thank you for your letter. I wonder what you feel on the cons-cript...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/34:Alexi, 31 The Park, Hampstead, Monday, Dear Bob, If you should come to London do come & see me I am now staying in the ho...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/35:9 Porchester Place, Edgware Rd, Dec 10th 1917, Dear B, It was such a pleasure to see Waldow grown such a splendid tall fellow...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/36:Feb 13th 1919., Dear Bob Thank you so much for your letter. Yes, I expect I did distress Edward very much the first time I sa...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/37:May 13th 1920, 9 Porchester Place, Edgware Rd, London, Dear old Bob, Thank you for your letter, & for your letter in the ...

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MacFarlane-Muirhead/2:Mount Vernon, Cape Town., Dec 8 / 89., Dear Bob, I wrote you quite a long letter two weeks ago. Then I suddenly got news that...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/3:My dear Bob,, Thankyou for your letter., I knew it would all be like that!! as the old women say, shaking their fingers. You’...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/4:Bob, Cape Town, May 23 / 92., My dear Bob, A Mr Muir has just come out here from Glasgo; he knows you, & he likes you. Of...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/5:Cape Town, Aug 13 / 92, My dear Bob,, I wrote you a card three weeks ago, but I don’t think they posted it. I’ve ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/7:New College,, Eastbourne., Friday, My dear Bob, I am going up to Ilkley on Monday. I leave by the 12.25 from St Pancras. When...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/8:The Homestead, Kimberley, Sep 17 / 94, Dear Bob,, You write to a person & give “Edinburgh” as your only addre...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/9:[page/s missing] Talk the matter over with him; & see what he thinks., I’m so glad to hear about your little son Bo...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/10:The Homestead, March 28 / 95. , Kimberley, South Africa, Dear Bob,, I enclose a letter which I’ve just cut from a paper...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/11:The Homestead, Kimberley, Aug 3rd 1895, Dear Bob,, A friend of my, a splendid but and very kind Presbeterian Clergyman was he...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/13:7 rue Lemâitre, Puteaux, Seine, May 14 / 97, My dear Bob, Edward sent me your letter., I hope all will go well with you...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/14:31 Lower Belgrave St, O W, Dear Bob,, Drop me a line some time if you feel you can. Give my love to your wife, & the dear...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/15:Morley’s Hotel, Trafalgar Square, London W.C., 16th July. 97, My dear Bob, (Olive says you are “Bob”), Your...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/16:The Homestead, Sep 23rd 1898, My dear Bob, It seems long since we had tidings of how the world was going with you three. Does...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/17:Hanover, Friday, My dear Bob, “Is there spirits about!” Yesterday for the first time for eleven or more months I ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/18:Cronwright-Schreiner & Meyer , Law and Estate Agents. , Auctioneers, &c, Hanover and De Aar , Cronwright-Schreiner, L...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/19:Hanover , Jan 22nd 1907, Dear Bob, I’m often wishing I had news of you all. How goes the world with you & the wife ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/20:P.O. Box 24, De Aar, Cape Colony, South Africa, Dec 24 / 07, Dear Bob & Lene, This is just a little line of Xmas & Ne...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/21:Box 24, De Aar, Nov 16th 1908, Dear Bob, I am sending you two photos of my self, take one for yourself & Lenie & send...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/22:De Aar, April 3rd 1911, Dear Bob, I’m sending you & Lene a copy of my book. It’s only a fragment but tell me ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/23:De Aar, Cape of Good Hope, South Africa, May 28th 1913, My dear Bob, I hope the world goes well with you all. How is your own...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/24:Hotel Augusta Victoria, Bad Nauheim, [page/s missing] but as I don’t know any one in the whole country except one woman...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/25:Grand Hotel und Kurhaus, Oberhof, July 14th 1914, Dear Bob thanks for your letter. As you will see I’m now in a little ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/26:Telephone 7266 Paddington, The Windsor,, 61 & 62 Lancaster Gate, W, Dear Bob, Thanks for your letter & thanks for ask...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/27:Telephone: 3675 Kensington., Telegrams: Apartment, London., Kensington Palace Mansions & Hotel,, De Vere Gardens, W., Dea...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/28:Telephone: 3675 Kensington., Telegrams: Apartment, London. , Kensington Palace Mansions & Hotel,, De Vere Gardens, W., De...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/29:c/o Dr Parker, Llandrindod Wells, Wales, Tuesday, Dear Bob,, I’m sorry that so far the invention has not come off. I’...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/30:c/o Dr Parker, Trevaldwyn,, Llandrindod Wells., Dear Bob, Thanks for your letter. I never go to peace meetings if I can help ...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/31:c/o Dr Parker, Llandrindod Wells, Wales, Wednesday, Dear Bob, I am so much better & able to stick to my writing that I do...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/32:c/o Dr Corthorn, 30 St Mary Abbotts Terrace, Kensington, London W., Dear Bob, I found the air too damp & relaxing in Corn...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/33:30 St Mary Abbotts Terrace, Kensington, Friday, Dear Bob, Thank you for your letter. I wonder what you feel on the cons-cript...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/34:Alexi, 31 The Park, Hampstead, Monday, Dear Bob, If you should come to London do come & see me I am now staying in the ho...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/35:9 Porchester Place, Edgware Rd, Dec 10th 1917, Dear B, It was such a pleasure to see Waldow grown such a splendid tall fellow...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/36:Feb 13th 1919., Dear Bob Thank you so much for your letter. Yes, I expect I did distress Edward very much the first time I sa...
MacFarlane-Muirhead/37:May 13th 1920, 9 Porchester Place, Edgware Rd, London, Dear old Bob, Thank you for your letter, & for your letter in the ...
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Olive Schreiner: Edward Carpenter SMD 30/32/d:Dec 20th 1902, Dear Edward, Have you ever read a most rare & beautiful book called "the soul of a people" by Fielding Hal...
Olive Schreiner: Edward Carpenter SMD 30/32/f:Dear old Edward, I like Kokoro more than any book I've read for a long time. Have you read "the Souls of Black Folks" I advis...
Olive Schreiner: Edward Carpenter SMD 30/32/gi:De Aar, Feb 24 / 08, Dear Edward , Can you send this letter for me to "Bob". His address is in my desk at Hanover, where I sh...
Olive Schreiner: Edward Carpenter SMD 30/32/gii:De Aar, Feb 6th 1908, Dear Edward, Months ago I began the enclosed letter. I haven't written because I wanted to go on with i...
Olive Schreiner: Edward Carpenter SMD 30/32/h:Portlock, nr Graaff Reinet, Cape of Good Hope, Jan 7 / 11, Dear old Edward, It's born in on me I must write to you, though wh...
Olive Schreiner: Edward Carpenter SMD 30/32/i:De Aar, May 6th 1911, Dear Edward, Many years ago, I think it was in 92 or three 93 - just after I first came out to Africa I...
Olive Schreiner: Edward Carpenter SMD 30/32/j:De Aar, July 4th 1911, Dear E.C., I wrote you a longish letter to go off by this week's mail but I must have put it into an e...
Olive Schreiner: Edward Carpenter SMD 30/32/k:De Aar, Sep 16th 1911, Ed dear,, I'm sending you another copy of my book. I think the mystery is solved as to what becomes of...
Olive Schreiner: Edward Carpenter SMD 30/32/p:Le Grand Hotel et d'Alassio, Alassio, Dear Ed, I feel I want to write to you this evening. I wonder what you think of our Cap...
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Edward Carpenter 359/40:Dear Edward , Please send this to Bob Muirhead. I didn’t see him to say good bye & so didn’t thank him. I tho...
Edward Carpenter 359/41:Ladies Chambers, Chenies Street , Saturday , My dear Edward , If you don’t find the savage book what you like send it b...
Edward Carpenter 359/49:Matjesfontein , A wild place in the Karroo , 200 miles from Cape Town. , Hour; 10 at night. , Sky; dark: mixed stars & da...
Edward Carpenter 359/50:Matjesfontein, Cape of Good Hope, South Africa , July 20 / 90, It was such a surprise & pleasure to get your letter last ...
Edward Carpenter 359/51:Matjesfontein, Sep 4 / 90, Dear Edward, You seem to have got very far from me some how Bob says he won’t come with me u...
Edward Carpenter 359/52:Matjesfontein, April 22 / 91, My dear old Edward , Why comes it in my heart tonight to write to you. I am sitting here in my ...
Edward Carpenter 359/53:My dear Edward, I’m some how wanting to hear from you & I don’t! Bob wrote to me the other day, but didn’...
Edward Carpenter 359/58:Matjesfontein , S. Africa, Nov 23 / 92, I’ve been lying in bed all day & reading that book of Francis Adams you sen...
Edward Carpenter 359/59:Xmas day, 1892, Dear Ed , I want to write to you this day. It’s so nice here. I’m staying at the old farm where I...
Edward Carpenter 359/60:Dear Old Ned, I’m coming home in April next. It will be beautiful to see you all. Old Bob & George & all of you...
Edward Carpenter 359/61:Highfield, Ben Rhydding, nr Leeds, Yorkshire , Dear Ed,, I think though you are not there I shall come to Millthorpe on Tuesd...
Edward Carpenter 359/62:Highfields , Ben Rhydding, Monday, Dear E. C. , Will be home next Tuesday week (tomorrow week) if I come to see you for a cou...
Edward Carpenter 359/63:Note address 39 West Hill, St Leonards on Sea, Tuesday , Dear E.C. , Thought you were going down to the Isle of Wight from th...
Edward Carpenter 359/66:Middelburg , Nov 9 / 93 , My dear old Ed , I want so to write to you tonight though I have not much to say that is interestin...
Edward Carpenter 359/68:Middelburg , New Years Day, A good new year to you all at Millthorpe. I was so glad to get your note E.C., Tell Harry he must...
Edward Carpenter 359/75:The Homestead , Aug 31 / 95, Dear Ed , I sent you by last mail the paper on the Political Situation here. I shall send you a ...
Edward Carpenter 359/77:Alassio, Riviera, Italy, May 2nd 1897 , Dear E.C. , Send Bob’s letter here. I wish I could see the dear old fellow. The...
Edward Carpenter 359/79:31 Lower Belgrave St, S.W., Sunday , Dear E.C. , I didn’t get another sight of your face. We are staying on & on in...
Edward Carpenter 359/80:The Homestead, Kimberley , Dec 14 / 97, Dear old Ed, I am sending you a paper concerning our last fight with Rhodes & the...
Edward Carpenter 359/85:Hanover , May 25th 1902 , Dear EC , I wonder how the world goes with you & if you have been up to Glasgow & stayed w...
Edward Carpenter 359/86:Hanover, Jan 5 / 03 , Dear old Ed,, A good new year to you all, especially Mat & his wife. Cron is going down to Cape Tow...
Edward Carpenter 359/89:Hanover, Aug 10th 1905 , Dear Ed , I got a letter the other day from a Miss Darby; who says she is a friend of yours. So many...
Edward Carpenter 359/91:Dear old Edward , I like your picture very much. But I like best the little snap Ellis sent me of you standing in a door. I t...
Edward Carpenter 359/92:Hanover , Feb 9th 1907 , Dear old Ed’ard , I send you a bit of a letter I’ve just got from a very dear & rema...
Edward Carpenter 359/93:Hanover, April 24th 1907 , Dear Edward, , My thought seem always turning to you now-a-days, or rather, you always seem to be...
Edward Carpenter 359/94:Matjesfontein, Cape Colony, Feb 19 / 09, Dear Edward , You are an absolutely wicked boy! I did send those two photographs to ...
Edward Carpenter 359/95:Oudeberg, nr. Graaff Reinet , Jan 31st 1911 , Dear Ed , I was glad to get your letter. I don’t know why I’ve had ...
Edward Carpenter 359/97:De Aar, April 28th 1911, Dear Edward , No I like my long sentences – when they come! There are things you want to prese...
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Olive Schreiner BC16/Box3/Fold6/1907/20:Cape Town, Sea Point, July 28th 1907, Darling Alice, Please send the news paper I send you with this on to Dot at Newnham whe...
Olive Schreiner BC16/Box5/Fold1/1912/47:De Aar, Thursday , My dear Laddie, I’ve been wanting to write to you for days, but the old pump doing its work badly, &...
Olive Schreiner BC16/Box5/Fold3/1914/44:Friday, Dear Laddie, I am sending this in case you are still at Oberhof. I got here safely last night Dorothy is lovely, &...